Irish People Share Their Coming Out Stories

  • Published: 27 June 2019
  • For Pride Month, we asked our LGBT TRYers to share their coming out stories. Their stories detail what it's like growing up LGBT in Ireland as well as commenting on the differences between then and now.
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  • The TRY Channel
    The TRY Channel   7 months back

    Hey, everyone. There was an issue with tonight's video where it wasn't sent to everyone's subscription feeds. As a result, we had to re-upload tonight's video (1080p will be available soon, don't worry). Unfortunately, the earlier of tonight's video had to taken down as the re-upload couldn't go up otherwise. Our deepest apologies to all those who had left comments of support or confiding their own stories and struggles - while those comments are sadly gone, in was in the interest that this video has full visibility allowing the world to see this video in the hopes that it can help even more people.

    Thank you all for your support. Happy Pride.

    - The TRY Team

    • Skepticalskitplace
      Skepticalskitplace  1 months back

      @The Man What was it that so offended you? I really don't care myself what any two or three or whatever number of people do in their private lives. That really has no affect on who they are as human beings. And it really doesn't affect me at all. Do gay people impact your life in a negative way? I mean directly impact your life.

    • Declan Judge
      Declan Judge  6 months back

      How do I have a stupid view liberalism has caused political unrest all over the world from old world empires such as the Dutch empire that invented slavery and British empire which destroyed peaceful civilization at will too today which if look at Libya and Syria all right not democracy but their people lived in peace till liberal Western countries marcons France and Obama's U.S.A. through a liberal intervention led to civil strife so don't try take the education defense because you are the only one who sound's stupid and ignorant

    • Nihilistic Atheist
      Nihilistic Atheist  6 months back

      Declan Judge As if anybody is going take notice of someone that doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re. Get an education before having a go at others with your ignorant views.

    • Declan Judge
      Declan Judge  6 months back

      If you think Ireland is so unaccepting get out or if you don't stop making out these people are the moral standard because they're same people who support far left views just look at they're parent channel BuzzFeed to them don't if you don't agree your a racist or Nazi

  • Paco Jones
    Paco Jones  4 days back

    Thanks for sharing your stories! You are all stars! Love you so much! I wish that you were all in more TRY videos! ❤️🌈❤️🌈❤️🌈

    • Alysha Rucker
      Alysha Rucker  4 days back

      Ok, so I recently stumbled across your channel and have been thoroughly enjoying it, but an American who is absolutely in love with everything Irish and who just so happens to be trans...I find this video. I mean you had me at drunken tastings, but this just completely seals the fucking deal, I'm sold, lol. You all are amazing, I love you all, I love this channel, keep it up....and keep randomly breaking out into some old Irish songs because I know all of the words and I sing along, lol.
      P.S. It's possible to make your own jerky at home. You don't need a dehydrator, just an oven. Any meat, any flavor. Google some recipes. You're welcome. 😉

      • Dave Nelson
        Dave Nelson  5 days back

        Love the courage and bravery to be honest! Your stories appreciated.

        • J
          J  5 days back

          Support is NEEDED .... nobody should feel alone! We all support what we focus on. Focus on the love we need. Love happens now, and only now!

          • Charity B
            Charity B  7 days back

            Love love love!!

            • Dan Schreimann
              Dan Schreimann  1 weeks back

              God bless you guys for everything you do. You spread happiness and support, and that's the greatest thing anyone can ever do. Plus, I love watching you all squirm while eating and drinking horrible things lol. Keep being your beautiful selves

              • Bernie Casey
                Bernie Casey  1 weeks back

                I'm very Proud of all of you and your stories.

                • commatoes
                  commatoes  1 weeks back

                  Months later, still makes my cry. 😢 😢 😢

                  • Ronnie Ferguson
                    Ronnie Ferguson  2 weeks back

                    I keep coming back to watch this video over and over again because it’s so very beautiful! All their parents are freaking AMAZING and phuqing ROCK!😭

                    • DonorFan
                      DonorFan  2 weeks back

                      I'm so proud of you all for being so open. It was a beautiful message that all young people should hear. It's important to speak out so people understand. Most rationale people will accept you just as you are, as long as you are honest and real about it. Thank you for making this video. It was beautiful.

                      • Joy Bender
                        Joy Bender  2 weeks back

                        I am in tears, this was so beautiful. I want to give you all a huge hug.

                        • RomulessI
                          RomulessI  2 weeks back

                          Great video, the horror of it is having over 1100 dislikes almost a 1-10 ratio on a video about being yourself and standing up for what's right. If you aren't using YouTube to connect closer to humanity and learn what makes us all more alike the world over then you're not doing it right, and that's a judgement I'm happy to pass, for the right reasons.

                          • ewook
                            ewook  2 weeks back

                            This, so touching. Thank you ALL for sharing. It spoke straight into my heart.

                            • Diamondfist1
                              Diamondfist1  2 weeks back

                              The turmoil and fear of being disowned or thrown out of your home from coming out to family is so traumatic; I was blessed with a beautiful mother who accepted and loved me no matter what when she found out I was gay. She died four months ago; that, the beautiful stories in this video, and memories of my own fears of what could have happened to me made me fall apart in a mass of tears. Bless everyone in this video and everyone who has gone, or is going through those difficult times in their lives.

                              • Gulagg the champion
                                Gulagg the champion  2 weeks back

                                I took a look at the downvotes; I am surprised and saddened by the large number of viewers that did not like this video. I can better understand the fear of rejection now.

                                • shawnaimus
                                  shawnaimus  2 weeks back

                                  Thank you

                                  • Diedra Johns
                                    Diedra Johns  2 weeks back

                                    I'm Ace. Coming out to my Dad was rather interesting. I don't think he really gets it, but he's glad that I'm not having sex. My (evil) step mother continues to tell me that I just need to find the right man and settle down. She says the same thing when I say I don't want children.

                                    • Eddie King
                                      Eddie King  2 weeks back


                                      • Jaye Hazlewood
                                        Jaye Hazlewood  2 weeks back

                                        Omg you guys made me CRY 😭😭😭😭 I wasn't ready for the feels!!
                                        Thank you all so much for telling your stories ❤👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

                                        • Frances Vachon
                                          Frances Vachon  3 weeks back

                                          Oh, Jesus. Thank you for this.

                                          • Sarah67 Titman McCurdy
                                            Sarah67 Titman McCurdy  3 weeks back

                                            It breaks my heart to see how you have suffered. My daughter introduced us to her girlfriend when she was fourteen. It never occurred to us to not accept her because we love her. As parents our job is to love and accept our children.

                                            • Lou Young
                                              Lou Young  3 weeks back

                                              Im proud to be gay and proud of anyone who has the courage to come out especially to their parents. I wish coming out stories were all happy but unfortunately theres people out there who are so ignorant. I hope in the future we will be seen as normal

                                              • Kellie Sharpe
                                                Kellie Sharpe  3 weeks back

                                                53yrs old and often thought as a "boomer" where I live in Tennessee. But, the truth is this: I never mention black or white to my kids until they started school so that they'd never know there was anything to tall about...some people have different color skin is all they knew. Then I always told them that they could date or love whoever they wanted as long as I got grandbabies out of the relationship...even it was adoption, I don't give a shit...grandbabies are grandbabies no matter how they get here. I ended up with 3 sons who are straight but who have gay friends they'd fight for. My oldest son is getting married in April but, he's actually getting legally married the day before at a courthouse so that his gay friend can marry them the next day in front of us his family and his friends. My boys love really love me for letting them be who they are and I'm reaping the benefits of loving them unconditionally. My only condition has always been, and will always be, grandbabies. There's nothing more important in life than ending up surrounded my babies who you can give sugar to, buy them anything ridiculous they want, and then send them home all hyped up on soda. Nothing.

                                                • Brenda Fager
                                                  Brenda Fager  3 weeks back

                                                  Massive love to you all. I am not gay, but very supportive. Many friends and family are LBGTQ and know I have nothing but love for them. Love is love is love. Why are humans the only species that are AFRAID of a "different" (though no different than straight) love?

                                                  • Mike Miller
                                                    Mike Miller  3 weeks back

                                                    Coming out was so important, fair play...

                                                    • Sierra
                                                      Sierra  3 weeks back

                                                      You all are incredibly brave, wonderful & truly lovely. I have family members & friends that are bisexual or gay. I don't understand why so many people have an issue with who people sleep with. If you're not hurting anyone and no one's hurting you it shouldn't matter who you love. As far back as I can remember I thought it was ok to be who you were. Thank you for sharing your stories.

                                                      • paul shortall
                                                        paul shortall  3 weeks back

                                                        only seeing this video now. as a straight guy I can't comprehend how difficult it must be to come out even in this day and age.. don't know if i'd be man enough to do it. excuse the language but it's about fucking time peoples attitude changed when it comes to homosexuality. its not a lifestyle choice. and thankfully legally Ireland came out of the dark ages. it should never have been an issue to start with

                                                        • phoenix rising
                                                          phoenix rising  3 weeks back

                                                          In a country that's becoming more and more openly hostile towards trans people, this one hits me hard. Been a long couple of years of hiding for me of late...

                                                          • Julie Thompson
                                                            Julie Thompson  3 weeks back

                                                            To Ian William, my brother. Oh, how you'd have loved these people!

                                                            • Dyan Payne
                                                              Dyan Payne  4 weeks back

                                                              Thank you for posting this. It makes me cry. I am straight but have many LGBT friends; whom I love dearly and would not be who I am today without them. I have a daughter who has identified herself as Bisexual and it has NEVER changed my love for her in anyway. Much Love to all of you and thank you for your strength and honesty in posting. You are all amazing. ❤️ 🏳️‍🌈

                                                              • Angelique Oren
                                                                Angelique Oren  4 weeks back

                                                                I think this video is great and I am straight. It is always wonderful to see life through another person's eyes and appreciate their journey! Well done!

                                                                • Shannon Simmons
                                                                  Shannon Simmons  4 weeks back

                                                                  I’m so proud of each of you! You go be happy! I’m in the US, if anyone can’t do this safely , I’ll be your family.

                                                                  • TazorNissen
                                                                    TazorNissen  4 weeks back

                                                                    Thank you to the strong people of this video for sharing your stories.

                                                                    I’m a straight dude and have never really questioned my sexuality, so this video was a powerful glimpse into what some gay people go through.
                                                                    I will probably never really understand what it is truly like, but I really appreciate you sharing the stories.

                                                                    Being gay or bisexual, to me, just means that you love somebody. And in my book real love can never be wrong. So continue to spread the love and I will love you for it.

                                                                    Love from Denmark :)

                                                                    • Parker Phillips
                                                                      Parker Phillips  4 weeks back

                                                                      God I fucking hate the whole "being bisexual is just a phase" thing

                                                                      • The Creeper
                                                                        The Creeper  4 weeks back

                                                                        Wtf nobody cares..... unsubscribed...

                                                                        • James King & the Jackhammers

                                                                          Thank you for this beautiful video and for sharing your truth. ❤

                                                                          • David Larson
                                                                            David Larson  1 months back

                                                                            and sometimes your family doesn't accept it. and you're excluded. and the damage is done so deep for so long that you can't 'choose your friend family' because you know only that "family" leaves you.
                                                                            and then you realize thirty more years have gone by of trying to find your peace-- and all you find is "alone"

                                                                            • patty brechtefeld
                                                                              patty brechtefeld  1 months back

                                                                              I have always told my son, no matter whom you love, you will always be loved. Does that make sense. I kind of had a feeling about him. He said to us this summer (15), that he was bi-sexual. I looked at him and said, "I know, I've always known. Don't love you any less and never will." My mom always told me, "It doesn't matter who you love, just treat each other with respect and love." Love is love is love is love. I have lost many friends because of how their families have treated them after. This you all for it. I need a tissue now.

                                                                              • BrittMac422
                                                                                BrittMac422  1 months back

                                                                                Great stuff. I am in AL, which is normally known as a place that is intolerant of gays/lesbians. Also, I am married to a woman who's sister is gay and that has never been an issue with us(she is great BTW). My wife is a champion of equality in my opinion. She is more outspoken socially than I am, meaning, I don't use social media much. Surprisingly, in almost 20yrs in my job, I have seen very little backlash upon the gay/lesbian community. I do see families going through issues when their children come out, but, it isn't anything like I have seen in the past. There is no shame in being who you are. I'm a cop that is happy to see people as who they are. I only hope I can have the strength to be as honest and strong as those that chose to come out. I am a weakling compared to that. And I go after people with guns. Sheesh. Society has norms that are hard to overcome. Also, I have been binge watching the Try channel....omg. You all rock. Led me here.

                                                                                • Kristina Swanson
                                                                                  Kristina Swanson  1 months back

                                                                                  All of you are good people! I remember my mother saying she is going through her “girl phase” thinking that liking girls was a phase. You all are beautiful!

                                                                                  • 1992bebe
                                                                                    1992bebe  1 months back

                                                                                    I didn't expect to cry today, but thank you for this. My mom didn't really take it well, and we didn't talk for a long time. I ended up having to come out several times. The first time I said I was bi because I wasn't ok with myself yet. 4 years later I finally came out as nonbinary trans...and that didn't end up great either. It's taken my mom 3 years to even start to respect that. A year ago I finally stopped hating myself for being a lesbian and had to tell everyone and explain why I said bi 6 years earlier. It went over much better this time. My dad and step-dad still don't know and will never know. They both come from a background of thinking it's an abomination, and I'm afraid of the consequences.

                                                                                    • Patrick Carroll
                                                                                      Patrick Carroll  1 months back

                                                                                      I feel free to judge.

                                                                                      • Patrick Carroll
                                                                                        Patrick Carroll  1 months back

                                                                                        My parents sent me to boarding schools of increasing severity. Ballyfin, St Enda's. I had a crush on a kid in St. Enda's, but ended up preferring girls.

                                                                                        Being honest, I really can't understand why a free man wouldn't want a woman.

                                                                                        I was severely bullied in Ireland, and got out of it as soon as I could. If I could nuke Ireland, I would,

                                                                                        • Bobert Beaubert
                                                                                          Bobert Beaubert  1 months back

                                                                                          From a Conservative, current administration supporting, straight while guy, more power to you. Good video. Nice to see people being who they are. However, Im kinda sick of hearing about in the media. Okay, your different than me, I’m different than you. Are we good now?

                                                                                          • Gail Hobby
                                                                                            Gail Hobby  1 months back

                                                                                            You guys are loved so much.. Your family friends and fans.. I want to say I love you guys.. Yes.. This world can be cruel.. Like some said... There is always light at the end of the tunnel.. Never give up.. Always keep loving yourself.. Cuz you are amazing... Love from Benton Arkansas USA

                                                                                            • antony kulik
                                                                                              antony kulik  1 months back

                                                                                              Thx for sharing these personal stories.....your courage and strength is important for younger people to see.... well done... your bravery is inspiring....God Bless you guys.....peace and love

                                                                                              • just be happy
                                                                                                just be happy  1 months back

                                                                                                Nobody truly cares, I mean for the love of Christ animals don't do shit like this, making videos to generate views on a subject, so let's be like animals. Christ on a bike, the human race is getting weaker and weaker day by day.