11 Parenting Mistakes That Ruin a Child’s Growth

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  • Published: 15 June 2019
  • All parents have their own – unique – way of bringing up their kids. Many of them work in order to be able to buy new toys for them, others are strict because they want their children to be disciplined and goal-oriented, others give their children a choice and teach them to make decisions on their own. Every family has its own ways of upbringing, but there is one thing that all parents have in common: when they look back, they all want to fix some of the mistakes they made in the past.

    The first years of a child’s life are a magical time that you should enjoy. Because in the future, you might regret some lost opportunities. So, take a look at the things that many parents regret in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes.

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    TIMESTAMPS:
    They scolded their children too often 0:22
    They missed out on the most important moments 1:09
    They didn’t play enough creative games 1:55
    They didn’t take enough photos and videos 2:39
    They didn’t take their child’s opinion into account 3:23
    They didn’t enjoy communicating with their child 4:18
    They didn’t educate them about money 4:57
    They didn’t make their child happy enough 5:50
    They didn’t hug their children often enough 6:35
    They weren’t consistent 7:20
    They often followed someone else’s advice 8:13

    #kids #parenting #brightside

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    SUMMARY:
    - Reprimanding a child for something they did wrong is totally normal. But sometimes parents go overboard and it turns into nitpicking.
    - Even if you think you have a good reason to miss your child's school play, do your best to be present. Find time to visit grandma, go to the theatre, decorate your house for the holidays.
    - Of course, simply playing creative games with your kids won’t necessarily make them great artists or musicians in the future. But, hey, there’s always a chance. Doing this has a lot of other advantages as well.
    - Obviously, not taking photos won’t have any bad impact on your kids’ lives. But it’s the best way to capture amazing moments that you don’t want to forget.
    - “You’re too young to decide”, “Adults know better” are probably phrases you heard quite often when you were a kid. But this kind of attitude from parents can have a serious impact on a kid’s future.
    - Communication between parents and kids is probably the most important thing in upbringing. So if you don’t put aside enough time for it, one day you’ll wake up and realize that your child has grown up already and is living their own life.
    - Without education on personal finance and responsible spending, children don’t understand the real worth of money. And when they grow up, they find it hard to manage their own income.
    - Good memories from our childhood are a real treasure for most of us. We like to go back in our mind to that time when we were carefree, and quite often every day was filled with doing something for the first time.
    - Hugs are not only a perfect way to show affection, but also scientifically proven to be good for our health, because they help protect against stress.
    - Kids get confused about what’s allowed and what’s not. Without clear boundaries, they probably won’t behave the way you want them to, and obedience issues become inevitable.
    - Never forget that YOU are the parent, so it’s up to you to decide what’s best for your kids. Also, don’t let strangers scold your child for misbehaving.

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Comments • 2 759

  • BRIGHT SIDE
    BRIGHT SIDE   6 months back

    Hey there, BrightSiders, how many children would you like to have?

    • Vishnupriya K
      Vishnupriya K  9 hours back

      I'm thankful to my parents. With all the limited resources they raised us (me and sister ). They also did some mistakes mentioned in the video. But I'm still happy and thankful for whatever they gave me. Atleast I have parents. They yelled at me , asked me to aim at space not just at sky . But pampered us. Gave us all they had . They were patient when we made mistakes . But gave us time and space to evolve and emerge successful.
      They said again and again if you was a less stressed easy going childhood,be very much assured
      of a troubled life later on. Push yourself ahead . It is these struggles ,that will strengthen your muscles and mind for the future race.
      They were right and wrong. But I'm taking it on a positive side. I was stronger and smarter and much more practical than my classmates. Gave me the guts to stand up and face problems.
      But it's need of the hour to change the approach as shown in the video.

    • Vishnupriya K
      Vishnupriya K  14 hours back

      2 will be ideal.

    • Mɪʟʟɪᴇ Gʀᴀɴᴅᴇ
      Mɪʟʟɪᴇ Gʀᴀɴᴅᴇ  2 days back

      1 girl 1 boy!💛

    • Ba studies with cooking & vlogs
      Ba studies with cooking & vlogs  5 days back

      Unknown answers..

    • LivieDoes Gacha
      LivieDoes Gacha  5 days back

      None XD

  • Enedelia Gonzalez
    Enedelia Gonzalez  28 minutes back

    👌👌👌❤️❤️❤️

    • Bauko Mtprovince
      Bauko Mtprovince  10 hours back

      My employer show too much love, care support to their children, they dnt even want to hurt them but their kids fighting and shouting at their mom and dad, the kids also blaming their parents if they broke something..

      • Lone Zombie
        Lone Zombie  10 hours back

        Have lots of fond memories but the there are two moments that stands out - watching action movies with my dad in the cinema hall and the day my dad bought me a "He-man"....

        • Safia Sondy
          Safia Sondy  1 days back

          Honestly I don't have any good memories of my parents..I'm living far away from them .i don't even remember I have call them 🤔
          Now I'm also a parents ,and I have realize how hard it is to be parents. So I have to try hard to create a good memory between me and my children

          • Safia Sondy
            Safia Sondy  1 days back

            Thanks 🙏🏿

            • Y M
              Y M  1 days back

              Looks like my folks only got 1/ 11 right!

              • Revienne Joseph
                Revienne Joseph  3 days back

                I am creating memories with my child and play creative games with her,she likes playing ball and dance

                • Ricardo Snow
                  Ricardo Snow  3 days back

                  I think that it’s hard for a lot of parents to teach about money because they don’t feel comfortable teaching something they themselves don’t understand either. I’m 24 with a 2 month old so I have a lot of time to really figure it out and I hope I can in time for my daughter.

                  • bakhtiar ahmed
                    bakhtiar ahmed  3 days back

                    Unfortunately I don't have no good old memories of school life and even childhood life for some unfortunate circumstances and surroundings of my time when I was born and grew

                    • Papatyagul gurbetci
                      Papatyagul gurbetci  3 days back

                      I love my both parents they always love us we all 4 siblings we always feeling there love never punishes us never hurt! Even I’m 40 still they care and love to me .I’m trying to show my kids like my parents!Love you mom and dad❤️❤️❤️I’m always listening my kids if I’m very busy doesn’t matter stop everything and just listened like my parents.

                      • Ajay Suna9
                        Ajay Suna9  3 days back

                        Nice video.

                        • Xesa Nas
                          Xesa Nas  3 days back

                          This is sad. I don’t remember any good childhood memories.

                        • Asisin Mama
                          Asisin Mama  4 days back

                          A lot of ungrateful kids in this comment section

                          A kind reminder pls! Whatever your parents does to you pls forgive them, it is not easy to be a parent, some of them are raised the way they are raising us, we can never repay them for being our parent. I so much love and respect them for bringing me in to this world. Pray for them. Whatever happen nobody loves you more than them!

                          • Mrs. LF
                            Mrs. LF  4 days back

                            This video make me want like to be..
                            My child memories not really good.. i lacked of many things like in this video.
                            And i dont want do that to my child later. I want she/he should be happy and i will try my best to do that.. thank you brightside!

                            • ranmade
                              ranmade  4 days back

                              My dad is an ignorant type of parenting. He is quiet and loves horse racing but he gave most of his income to support the family. My best memory with my him was about... One day he bought a 500 puzzles with my favourite cartoon when I was 7. We did it partially every Sunday. It was the first time I felt we had the same goal and achievement.. He also bought me 1 birthday gift because I had asked for it when I was 9. That's it. Anyway, I know he cares me a lot and so do I.

                              • Catz adventures and Ideas ESL teacher

                                Thank you for this video. I learned alot and i will start doing the things i did not do with my kids

                                • beauty hacks saimatahir164

                                  Learn them to recite Quran Pak and namaz, and don't cheat with any one you can see if are good too others your child will also good for you

                                  • Karen Chio
                                    Karen Chio  4 days back

                                    Come on I like my mom,s way better than your,s sometimes you need to scold them so they will be good if not they will be bad but not to much

                                    • no scam
                                      no scam  5 days back

                                      My parents always scold me when i was kids,, now i stay as far as i could from my family. I love them, but i don't want stay close with them.

                                      • Daniélín NicG
                                        Daniélín NicG  5 days back

                                        Lets bin the mother guilt its not like we gotta handbook were all tryin our best everyday to the point of pure exhaustion

                                        • HiYa Pal
                                          HiYa Pal  5 days back

                                          Well, I *hope* that mom regrets digging her nails into my arms, and sending me, crying, to school, just because she had to get out of bed to make sure that I was dressing myself, and wasn't going to miss the bus.😡 I know that she worried about it after I was gone, because she was afraid that the teachers would see. But, nope she had me too well trained to report it. I just sit and sniveled and marvelled over the marks in my arms. Smh. She conveniently forgets anything negative that she did to her kids, now, so I doubt that she's regretting anything. 😒

                                          • garima
                                            garima  5 days back

                                            I am a mom here to read kids comments to know what they feel. Thank for the great video and comments

                                            • Abbie The Explorer
                                              Abbie The Explorer  5 days back

                                              I have no mother nor a father, I grew up alone.

                                              • Mziwanda Bakers
                                                Mziwanda Bakers  5 days back

                                                Thank you

                                                • SUVEERA AMIN
                                                  SUVEERA AMIN  6 days back

                                                  My favourite childhood memories are the great family vacations my biological dad took the whole family to various countries and my particular favourite 1 was just us alone together to Rome Italy such beautiful memories.

                                                  • epairo yashewa
                                                    epairo yashewa  6 days back

                                                    Real Christian doesn't use 🙏👈🏼

                                                    • epairo yashewa
                                                      epairo yashewa  6 days back

                                                      Proverbs 22:6 King James Version (KJV)

                                                      6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
                                                      JESUS IS COMING VERY SOON LET'S GET THINGS RIGHT WITH GOD 💙

                                                      • Lance May
                                                        Lance May  6 days back

                                                        I agree.

                                                        • Nasro Ali
                                                          Nasro Ali  6 days back

                                                          As a young mother who had hard time understanding her Mom... all I can say is that you will never understand what is like to be a parent until U become one . I can’t imagine what some parents go through because they don’t know any better . Parents are not perfect but they give up so much for their children . They hide their pain from us so we can smile. Plz forgive your parents if u can . And let’s be better parents for our children inshaa Allah. ♥️ “you are not who the world says u are , you are who u choose to be “ —unknown

                                                          • Brundha Ramesh
                                                            Brundha Ramesh  7 days back

                                                            Good one😊

                                                            • peter koob
                                                              peter koob  7 days back

                                                              Didn't take enough pictures and videos?... ruin a child's growth! Now that is taking it to far! All our bloody ancestors must have had a terrible lives, thank God someone invented the camera. I'm not against pictures, but I find it way more enjoyable strolling down memory lane in conversation and story telling. That brings out more creativity then a picture. How to you tell a story that captivates even those that might not have been there.

                                                              • Night Crawler
                                                                Night Crawler  7 days back

                                                                I understand if my mom can't attend any important matters like educational events. I used to be an awardee student but my mom is working outside the Country for me. I love her and respected her so much.

                                                                • I Am Sovereign
                                                                  I Am Sovereign  7 days back

                                                                  My mother in law scolded my wife every day, beat her with anything the could find, woke her up every morning with firecrackers or buckets of water until she was even past 18. She has a great relationship with her, got a bachelor's degree and she is normal, no trauma nothing.

                                                                  • UMAR NAGI
                                                                    UMAR NAGI  7 days back

                                                                    In Pakistan a mother first priority is to take care of her kids . She dedicated her whole life to raise her kids n father also support his children . We dnt have bars n party nights here. We feel satisfied n relax with our children. Play eat talk together. Therefore we dnt have such kind of problems in children. Boys n girls respect their parents ask for premissions n get suggestions even they grew older .

                                                                    • Jan Drake
                                                                      Jan Drake  7 days back

                                                                      A guide on how to create snowflakes with entitlement minds 😉👎

                                                                      • Nkazimlo
                                                                        Nkazimlo  6 days back

                                                                        Please go ask your kid to be honest and ask them are they currently happy

                                                                    • Jonathan Santos
                                                                      Jonathan Santos  1 weeks back

                                                                      A worthy video to start with. Let’s find more of the kind of people we need to chart and expedite the process of graduation. Let’s get people to upgrade questions to simplify our rights to be better and not when it’s too late.
                                                                      Thanks for your concernment standards.

                                                                      • jmblo1976
                                                                        jmblo1976  1 weeks back

                                                                        On stray dogs - "That's your wife job..."
                                                                        Really? You lost me there.

                                                                        • Joyceleen David
                                                                          Joyceleen David  1 weeks back

                                                                          I'm always been punished and spanked ..and I love my oldest sis..she been there to comfort me .she was the best mom I've ever had ...instead of our own mother

                                                                          • Katherine Rich
                                                                            Katherine Rich  1 weeks back

                                                                            #8 is not a viable option for people who can't afford that stuff. Also if a two your old wants you to hold them constantly and cry if you don't, there is such a thing as holding them to much. You have to cut it off somewhere. (Not saying you should stop bugging and cuddling them all together, but 1 hug here 3 minutes there works a lot better)

                                                                            • Nadiya’s Diaries
                                                                              Nadiya’s Diaries  1 weeks back

                                                                              My mother never Hugged me after the age of 6 I guess

                                                                              • Saad Mehfooz
                                                                                Saad Mehfooz  1 weeks back

                                                                                Love them, Hugh them and give them 100 kisses but only while they are sleeping lol just kidding ;)

                                                                                • nini D
                                                                                  nini D  1 weeks back

                                                                                  My favorite childhood memory is the summer of 1988. I was turning 8 and it was just me and my mom. She bought me my favorite record album which was Lisa Lisa & the cult jam!!! She also bought me a stereo. We had the best time ever.. I remember really really starting at my mother and thinking how much I love this woman what would I do with out her. She’s my everything..

                                                                                  • Mrs. Bartlett
                                                                                    Mrs. Bartlett  2 days back

                                                                                    nini D 🥰 I think about giving to many material things to my daughter sometimes. I think to myself , she would remember a trip with the family more than she would remember a doll or something that I got her and she just throws down 10 mins after getting it. But after reading your comment I think that some material things can indeed be apart of a memory as well, especially if I show interest in it with my daughter. Thanks for sharing your memory and giving me something to ponder.
                                                                                    Your mom sounds like an amazing mother

                                                                                • dz hassina
                                                                                  dz hassina  1 weeks back

                                                                                  Thank you.

                                                                                  • Me You
                                                                                    Me You  1 weeks back

                                                                                    Great video. I don’t agree on the last element though. I am a father of two

                                                                                    • Maria Alejo
                                                                                      Maria Alejo  1 weeks back

                                                                                      Kids :100 %wachted
                                                                                      Parents :10%wachted

                                                                                      • Angel Lee
                                                                                        Angel Lee  2 weeks back

                                                                                        I try to be a great parent, I will take these tips into consideration. Thank you!

                                                                                        • Roberta Vileikyte
                                                                                          Roberta Vileikyte  2 weeks back

                                                                                          I like the last one so much about strangers :p